Would You Do Anything To Solve Your Problem?
Would you do anything it takes to overcome your problem and achieve your goal?
If not, why not?
In a previous post called, Pink Elephants and White Tigers, (Click Here to check it out) the process of how easily you can transform a negative into a positive was spelled out clearly. Regardless of that, there’s a high percentage of others who will tell you that they tried it and it didn’t work for them to solve their problem. Or, it’s not that simple.
Are they correct? Or, is there something else happening that leads them to believe that?
So many people have told me over the years they’d do “ANYTHING” to overcome their anxiety, depression, relationship problems, financial problems, or some other terrible type of problem. “Anything.”
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At first it seemed like someone with that much motivation would have no problem applying whatever they learned and that they’d make leaps and bounds of progress! Exciting. But, not so much.
In many cases, I knew a very simple solution to their problem. At the very least I knew where they could find a solution, or we could role up our sleeves and create a solution.
There would be one good faith attempt after another to solve their problem, only to find them back at square one in a short period of time. It should have worked for anyone, or at least the majority.
On hundreds of occasions I’ve asked them my own modified version of what is called, “The Miracle Question.” Simply, I’d ask the person what they’d do if I gave them a pill that was guaranteed to solve their problem. It would remove their anxiety, depression, poverty, or whatever else, overnight.
Would they take the pill? Over 80% would turn very red in the face, look down at the ground and say, “No.” They had no conscious insight into why they wouldn’t take the pill.
If they wouldn’t take that pill, then they certainly wouldn’t accept any solution that came from someone else, let alone them. No wonder they’d never made any progress after years of trying one thing after another with no success.
What in the world is going on with them?
It’s the same basic thing going on in all of us. Resistance in the form of blocking beliefs.
Remember how important a role that beliefs play in your emotions, decisions, and actions? When evaluating beliefs it’s important to pay attention to implied messages.
The very term, “Implied messages,” implies all you need to know about them. They’re implied. They’re not clearly stated yet.
Implied messages give you a strong clue about what’s happening below the surface of your conscious awareness. Whatever’s happening down there is strongly affecting your conscious actions.
Here’s an example. Let’s say you and I meet. We shake hands. You ask me, “Hi John, how are you doing?” with a nice, polite tone in your voice.
I lower my eyebrows, narrow my eyes into slits, grit my teeth and bark, “I’m FINE! How are YOU?” You respond with astonishment and report, “You don’t sound fine. What’s really going on?”
In this case I’m revealing an in-congruence between what I’m saying and how I’m saying it. It’s possible that I’m completely clueless (unaware) that I have just exhibited an in-congruence. The majority of people are clueless.
The implied message is that I’m not fine. Now, I didn’t SAY I wasn’t fine. In fact, what I said very clearly was that “I’m FINE!” Not being fine was implied by my tone of voice, facial expression, inflection on my words.
On some more subtle level, these in-congruences and implied messages are happening to every one of us several times per day.
Become a detective of your own underground system of in-congruences. Tease them out and shift them into the truth using what’s taught in this book as a guide. Ask trusted friends, relatives, or your personal development coach to point them out to you.
The $10,000 problem/solution.
Recently, I had a conversation with someone that reminded me of hundreds of other similar conversations I’d had. It started out with them being aware of how hesitant they’d be to having $10,000 come into their bank account.
They were aware of it, but didn’t know what to do with it. What was the implied message if they were to come into a windfall of $10,000? For them, the implied message was that they were unworthy of having that much money. It would also imply that they were selfish.
“Well, what if I gave you a magic pill that could completely shift your belief that you’re unworthy if you have $10,000 into believing you’re worthy, as well as convincing you that you’re kind instead of selfish?”
“Would you take the pill.” The response was hesitation, then, no. Now they have an implied belief that something’s wrong with them if they take the pill.
Power: The Problem Behind The Problem
From years of experience I’ve teased out the number one reason why they won’t take the pill, or any other solution. It has to do with power.
They’re not OK with power. For one reason or a thousand, they’ve come to conclude that people who have power, and use it, are intrinsically evil.
It’s a completely false belief. To be available for creating and having the life you love, it’s critically important that you shift your belief about power from false to true.
It must be OK to have and use power in order to be OK with receiving and having anything. Even something as simple as having calmness instead of anxiety, joy instead of depression, wealth instead of poverty, health instead of illness, a successful relationship instead of conflict.
Winning the Lottery
Have you ever fantasized about winning the lottery? Probably most people have at least fantasized about it.
Did you know that the research shows that at least 80% of those who win the lottery are completely broke within one year, plus an additional 10% of their original winnings in debt?
They could have retired for the rest of their lives.
I know what you’re thinking. You’re thinking, “Whoa! Hold on, John. Are you telling me that some sort of underlying beliefs made them lose all their money?”
And, my answer is, “Yes.” Their beliefs about having money.
What happens when most people win the lottery. Friends and family come out of the crawl spaces wanting a chunk. If they don’t get it, they’re treat whoever won the lottery horribly.
The winner has to make a choice. Keep and use the money and be OK with losing their friends and family; or, keep friends and family and lose the money.
Money is a form of power. What they believe about power, rejection vs. acceptance, and so on can torment them util they get rid of the money.
Are any of those negative beliefs about money true? Not in my opinion.
What about overcoming anxiety or depression? For a lot of people, they believe that if they could overcome anxiety and depression, it would be as cool as winning the lottery.
In reality, there may be some benefits to having anxiety and depression that they refuse to give up. Would their friends and family still treat them with compassion and caring?
Maybe their whole identity has come to be based on how anxious and depressed they are. Who will they be if they’re happy and calm?
These are serious questions that must be answered if the problem is to be solved.
The list goes on.
It’s about your belief about power. What belief do you have about the power to solve your problems? Is there more than one? Choose to be OK with benevolent power and to pay any reasonable price to solve your problem.
Embrace Your Power
Whether you like it or not, you already have an enormous amount of power. God is all powerful and has created you in His Image. Put God first and you’ll never abuse your power.
If you want an abundant life, a life you love, you’ll need to embrace the power you already have to create it and receive it.
Here’s a list of 24 types of power that you already have. These are only the ones I’ve thought of so far. Maybe you can think of some I’ve missed. Let me know if you do.
- Power of intention
- Decision
- Choice
- Awareness
- Personal Responsibility
- Forgiveness
- Love
- Focus
- Rest
- Confession-Proclamation
- Belief
- Imagination
- Expectations
- Priorities
- Giving
- Receiving
- Perspective
- Attitude
- Follow Through
- Clarity
- Leverage
- Words
- Faith
- Silence
Embrace your power. Learn to use it in a way that glorifies God, benefits others, and you.
Very Sincerely,
John Mason
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